Do You Believe In Love At First Site

Do you believe in love at first sight? Renee Brown responds to interviewer Chris Ilsley.

Drawing parallels to the TV show Married at First Sight, 6pr radio host Chris’s guest was Renee Brown,  Matchmaker. Discussing the love versus lust dilemma, Renee Brown makes it clear that lust is in fact one component of what drives us to believe in love at first sight. Can couples that claim love at first sight make it work? Does love occur instantaneously or do couples fall slowly, comfortably in love and live happily ever after?

Rene Brown’s belief that primal urges drive us to choose people we want to date based on the fitness as a mate or their ability to breed and perpetuate the race.

So these feelings of lust that come upon us and drive us to chase the one we want are caused by chemical reactions within the brain. Brown says we need to call upon the brain at this stage to analyze the situation and make sure the person is right for us. So pay attention to the signals that the brain is sending you. Don’t ignore them. Basing your choices on looks only is a mistake.

Is the love at first sight crowd older?

Caller after caller professed their undying love for mates that they met and married after their first date. Some even proposed on the first date! Most had been married half a century or more. So what did Renee Brown attribute this to? She says well these are older people and they have values. Meaning they know how to stick it out when times are tough. Dating at the time these people were seeking a mate was not the marathon sport that it is now.

Have dating practices evolved?

Current dating practices have evolved into a much faster paced almost sport like event. We have speed dating, tinder and many other ways that didn’t even exist back then. Renee Brown says even in the current dating environment we need to use our brains to listen to what is going on and still use our values to help us make the proper choice. Again, we are just doing this at a higher speed now than ever before.

What about making a return appearance?

In the event that people are returning to the dating world for the first time in 20+ years, the differences now are so great that they are often shocked and don’t know where to begin. Chris lsley felt this was an excuse to stay married and Renee Brown chimed in that yes, they should work on their marriage.

Finally, how do we avoid the wrong person?

In one last question Chris asks Renee Brown how to avoid hook-ups with the wrong people? Again she let us know in no uncertain terms, use your brain! Take note of the red flags and pay attention. Don’t let lust drive your decision. Make sure to engage the brain and pay attention! Renee Brown is a current day matchmaker and appeared on the Chris Ilsley radio show to discuss the topic of Love at First Sight. Let Corporate Cupid help you avoid the wrong person and make the right match. We offer guidance, social events and fun.

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Summer Date Ideas Perth

So, you’ve secured the date, now it’s time to close the deal with a great date!

There are so many wonderful things to do in Perth. Now that Corporate Cupid has fit you with a fantastic match, it’s time to explore the reasons you were matched. Find fun things to do that are not far from home and make it a no pressure date. Afternoon dates are lovely for the getting to know you phase and any of these will work wonders to promote conversation and thoughtful time spent learning each other’s likes and dislikes.

Perth is an exciting
city with many date options. Now that you’ve met the potential one at one of
our social singles club events, it’s time to get out on the town. Don’t put too
much pressure on the date. Just enjoy getting to know each other and exploring
fun places close to home. Here are our top ten ideas for a “getting to know you”
date in Perth!

Do you enjoy outdoor fun summer date ideas Perth?

  1. The King’s Park and Botanic Garden is a lovely getaway close to home.  There are a variety of events for young and old, so if your date has children, they will appreciate that you have offered an option acceptable to bring children should they desire to do so. It’s not likely on a first date, but displaying that kind of thoughtfulness is a nice touch. Check the calendar of events for upcoming summer fun date ideas Perth.
  2. An afternoon exploring Swan Valley is a nice easy walk with interesting items to explore along the way. Perhaps you and “the one” are history buffs that appreciate old architecture and churches. Two of Australia’s oldest churches are here and both lovely to see. St Mary’s Church is located in Middle Swan and All Saint’s Church in Henley Brook boasts the original church buildings and grave yard. Explore the history and enjoy the region, following with lunch in town.

For the more adventurous date, visit one of these spots!

  1. Freemantle Prison offers a variety of fun things to do! If your date is on the adventurous side, plan a fun trip to Freemantle Prison. Check the calendar for what is going on. Freemantle offers a fun Torchlight Tour. Be sure to check with your date and find out just how adventurous they are before booking this tour.
  2. The Bell Tower along The Swan River is a nice place for a stroll after a meal. The views are excellent and you can even place a love lock! A really good getting to know you, fun thing to do, plenty of time to stroll, enjoy the scenery and talk!

Do you fancy a casual meal and good
conversation?

Sometimes you just want to enjoy a meal, sit and talk a bit. These are a few of our favorite places to enjoy doing just that! Here’s a few of our favourite places for summer date ideas Perth.

  1. For an excellent Chinese meal and a BYO casual,
    quiet atmosphere, bring your appetite and your date to Old
    Lane Street Eats
    in Northbridge. Frequent diners recommend the Roti John
    and the Pad Thai.
  2. Little
    Creatures
    in Fremantle is a casual, yet romantic spot on the water. Being
    at the port is festive and fun. So for a great time, good food and an all
    around fun date night or afternoon, try Little Creatures. It won’t disappoint!
  3. For a more upscale meal, try C Restaurant and dine in the sky! You’ll
    enjoy the food as well as the view and the ambiance is both quiet and romantic.
    Save this one for a 2nd 3rd date. It will lead to more!

Are you looking for a quick meeting spot?

Sometimes you just need to meet for a few minutes and speak
about meeting at the singles club or one of the singles events in Perth. Maybe
you didn’t have enough time to speak, so more time to talk is in order before
an actual date.

  1. For a totally no pressure, first meeting date,
    try Gusto Gelato, Elizabeth Quay
    There are a few locations to choose from and what a fun idea for a hot
    afternoon! Enjoy your ice cream or go for a stroll, cones in hand as you spend
    time chatting and getting to know each other.
  2. At Swallow
    Bar
    , Maylands you can pop in for a drink and convert to a fully fledged
    date if things work out! This is a lovely neighbourhood bar to meet for a quick
    drink and if you really like the way things are going, stay for a meal. The
    food is excellent.
  3. The Metro Bar and Bistro, is a popular city venue, near the convention centre. It
    has an urban modern flare. It’s a great place to meet and talk because its open
    early until late and has an extensive cocktail menu and good food.

It’s time to seal the deal.

Now that you’ve made the date, pick a great spot to enjoy. Make it a no pressure afternoon or evening date so that no one is nervous. Stay local and enjoy all that Perth has to offer. Our social singles clubs are a great place to start. Corporate Cupid is your social singles club, Perth. Enjoy our summer date ideas Perth!

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5 Pieces of Bad Dating Advice Exposed

Has bad dating advice left you feeling vulnerable?

There is no shortage of dating advice out there from friends and family but what you need is a Singles Social Club – I’m talking a real life experience. Until you have the chance to enjoy a wonderful event with like-minded people.

The problem though is much of the advice you’ve recieved has been mistaken and based on personal experiences and opinions, rather than actual research about relationships. Below, I take on five common pieces of dating advice that are misguided or flat-out wrong.

This why you need a Social Club! Research shows that a lot of popular dating wisdom is wrong.

When You Meet The Right Person, You’ll Know Right Away.
One comforting piece of advice is that when the right person comes along, you’ll just magically know.
Maybe you’ll even experience love at first sight. Unfortunately for those romantics out there, the evidence suggests that there’s no magic. In a series of studies, Paul Eastwick and colleagues tracked people’s memories of various relationship experiences across the entire course of their relationships, both short-term and long-term. They found that early in a relationship, the timing of various relationship milestones (e.g., first kiss, first sexual encounter) and the strength of people’s feelings toward their partner was the same for both short and long-term relationships.
It was only later on that the researchers saw differences between relationships that lasted and relationships that eventually fizzled.

If You’re Interested In Someone, Play Hard To Get.
Many relationship advice books tell women that they should play hard to get if they hope to attract a man. According to this strategy, men like what they can’t have, so a woman should act uninterested in the man she desires.
Girls think that playing hard to get will make a guy like them, and being too available will turn him off. This isn’t true. Waiting a certain amount of time before texting him back and pretending to be busy when you’re not doesn’t get a guy to like you, it gets a guy to chase you. The problem with the chase is that it creates the illusion of having chemistry.

Focus On Putting Your Best Foot Forward Until You’re Firmly Committed.
Some dating advice suggests that the courtship experience should be approached as a game with the end goal of snagging a partner: Carefully monitor your behavior and the impression that you create in order to win the prize of a committed relationship. It’s true that first impressions matter and that you should generally be on good behavior on your early dates. Opening up too soon is generally viewed as socially inappropriate and is likely to turn someone off. But sometimes this advice goes too far.


Opposites attract, so try to find someone really different than you.
People often claim that opposites attract. Studies have found that people are
more likely to be attracted to and pursue romantic relationships with
individuals who are more like themselves across a broad range of personal
characteristics, including age,  religion , political orientation, and certain
aspects of  intelligence . Consider the 2014 research paper in which an international  team  of economists found that better-educated people tend to
marry other better-educated people—while individuals with less formal
schooling tend to partner with people of comparable educational levels.
Generally speaking, it appears, birds of a feather romantically flock together.


You’ll Only Meet Liars And Weirdoes If You Date Online.

Many people believe that everybody lies online. Online daters do sometimes
lie about their age and physical appearance. However, research shows that
extreme lies are rare because people who are looking to develop relationships
with those they meet online realize that such lies will eventually be revealed,
and when they are, it would likely spell the end of the relationship. There is
also a stereotype that people who use online dating are desperate because
they are unable to get a date “in real life.” Contrary to this picture, research
shows that there are almost no personality differences between people who
date online and those who don’t. In fact, one study found that people who met
their spouses online were more likely to be of higher socioeconomic status
than those who met offline. When you’re on the dating market, be yourself,
don’t chase after your polar opposite, don’t expect to instantly know if you’ve
found “the one,” and don’t be afraid to try online dating.

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Self-Esteem and Successful Relationships

Self-Esteem and Successful Relationships

Research has well established the link between good self-esteem and relationship satisfaction. Self-esteem not only affects how we think about
ourselves, but also how much love we’re able to receive and how we treat
others, especially in intimate relationships.

“Low self-esteem can make you test or sabotage relationships that have potential, or settle for relationships in which you’re treated in a way that matches your beliefs about yourself,” says clinical psychologist Suzanne Lachmann, Psy.D.

People with high self-esteem are aware of the fact that to maintain a successful relationship; inner happiness is all that matters. And to keep up with that, one should know his self-worth, which has nothing to do with money,
education or health. Individuals who have a high level of self-recognition are acutely aware of themselves and what they want from a relationship. Before involving a long-lasting and positive relationship, he always starts by respecting himself.

He strives to know about himself and also if he is ready for the future consequences of involvement. Therefore, all the qualities mentioned above for a person with high self-esteem, make him stand out among the rest. Knowing their worth first, helps them to involve with a better understanding of a relation.

If you have low self-esteem you won’t be able to relate to others well. You may feel a lack of confidence in social situations. Your body language may be negative and you will not respond to others positively. Relationships you have had for a while can quickly go downhill if you suffer from low self worth. Even the best of friends will grow tired of someone who cannot help himself / herself. You may take on a victim mentality. This means you will blame everyone and everything for how you feel. You will not be able to relate to others well because you will act like a victim rather than an equal.

Why not complete the ‘Quizzes and More’s The Self Worth Quiz?



Once you’ve completed the scale, add together all of the numbers assigned to each response you chose, and review the appropriate feedback below.

If Your Score Ranged From:


10-25 –
Your score indicates that you have a fairly poor sense of your self
worth. And chances are that your ideas about yourself are not really
accurate – you may be focusing too much on the negative and ignoring the
many positive aspects of who you are as a person. Poor self worth is
something you should consider working on because it can interfere with your
interest in and ability to go after challenging goals. It can also make it more
difficult for you to find a healthy romantic relationship, with a partner who
values you as a person and who treats you well. Click here to learn more
about what you can do to work on developing a more positive sense of self
worth.

26-40 – Your score indicates that your sense of self worth is moderate – lower
in some areas and higher in others. Although no one feels they’re the best at
everything (and, of course, no one actually is the best at everything), it’s
possible that some of your more negative feelings about yourself could be improved
by a change of focus, or working harder to accomplish certain goals.

41-50 – Your score indicates that you have a fairly positive sense of your self
worth. That’s great, because feeling this way can improve your ability to
successfully accomplish challenging goals, and to find and maintain a healthy
romantic relationship.

Healthy Self-Worth in Relationships
When you understand the influence that lack of self-worth has on your
relationships, you can take steps to change what stands in the way of a
meaningful and balanced relationship. A healthy sense of self-worth can
transform your life.

If you are looking to find a life long partner, join our Social Club for singles!

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10 Keys to a Successful Romantic Relationship

 According to psychologists Nathaniel Branden and Robert Sternberg, who
have both researched and written about the challenges of romantic
relationships, little displays of interest and affection can be more important than all the “active listening” and trust games in the world. Their research has suggested 10 keys to a Successful Romantic Relationship, keeping both partners content, satisfied, and happy with each other.

1. Tell your partner you love them.

Although it’s true that actions speak louder than words, words often speak
more clearly than actions. Take a moment every now and then to verbalize
your feelings for your partner.
It shows commitment- The phrase I love you is a big step in any relationship so by repeating it -shows you are still embracing this milestone each and every day.
It makes your partner feel secure- If something has rocked your relationship
lately- this can let your loved one know that whatever life throws at you- you
still love them no matter what.

2. Show some affection

Small acts of physical intimacy – the hand on the small of the back as you
brush by in the hallway, your arm around their shoulder on the sofa, your
hand on their thigh when seated side-by-side, holding hands while walking
down the street. Small affectionate moments can have a big ripple affection in
your relationship. When we show affection to our partners and husbands, they
feel noticed, respected, and cherished.

3. Show appreciation to your partner

Appreciation is a key to any relationship. Appreciating someone makes them
feel good about what they do, and that it makes a difference to their lives. It
makes them feel better about themselves, urging them to go on with new
vigor, strengthening your relationship.

4. Share yourself

When people share their opinions and feelings they develop a greater
understanding of each other’s likes and dislikes. It may also help to work out
what each other are wanting from the relationship. Don’t keep your likes and
dislikes, dreams and fears, achievements and mistakes, or anything else to
yourself. If it’s important to you, share it with your partner.

5. Be there for your partner.

It’s obvious what you need to do when your partner faces a major life
challenge like the loss of a job or the death of a loved one. But it’s just as
important to be supportive when your partner faces life’s little challenges, too
– an argument at work, a rough commute, a misplaced check. Don’t let
yourself be a doormat, and definitely don’t stand for physical or verbal abuse,
but thicken your skin a little and be the voice of calm and reason when chaos strikes. Listen to what’s bothering them and offer whatever help – even if it’s just sympathy – you can.

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6. Give gifts

Gifts have always been an important part in developing healthy, loving
relationships. Apart from being just a simple gesture of appreciation towards
your partners, giving the right gifts can show just how much you care for, and
understand them. While all relationships are unique, no one can deny the
impact these things have on creating a stronger bond and deeper connection
with each other. The time one takes to get to know his or her partner’s
preferences, personalities, and unique quirks makes a well-chosen gift even
more special because of the effort that goes into choosing it.

7. Respond gracefully to your partner’s demands and shortcomings

A big killer of relationships is unreasonable expectations. Unless you married
a robot, your partner comes pre-loaded with a whole range of human failures
and foibles. These are features, not bugs! Learn to recognize and appreciate
your partner’s quirks for what they are: an essential part of who they are as
people. Since our weaknesses are often at the core of our deepest
insecurities, make sure you don’t pick on or otherwise go out of your way to
highlight your partner’s flaws.

8. Make “alone time” a priority

No matter how busy both of your lives are, make sure you commit at least an
evening every week or two to be alone together. “When we spend quality and
designated time on ourselves, we nurture our own social and emotional well- being, which makes us more likely to carry that out towards other relationships,” says therapist  Julia Colangelo , LCSW. “It is vital that to enable our relationship to grow, we must also grow and develop as a person.”

9. Take nothing for granted

Cultivate a daily sense of gratitude for your partner and the thousands of little
blessings he or she has brought into your life. Not taking each other for
granted is all about giving time for each other. It is all about showing concern
for your partner. It is all about asking how his or her day was. It is all about
giving your partner a hug before he or she leaves for work. It is all about the
small things that you do for your partner that makes him or her feel loved.

10. Strive for equality

Make sure you follow the Golden Rule in your relationship: do unto your
partner as you would have done unto you. Strive for a fair division of
household duties and other tasks, and don’t expect or demand special
considerations you’d be unwilling to offer.

If you are a single looking to find love, Corporate Cupid offers a Social Club for our members. With locally organised networking events, Corporate Cupid provides a safe and relaxed environment for those seeking to find the special someone.

Dating Perth

Dating Perth produces love matches every day!

Perth is a wonderful city for dating and falling in love.
So, you’ve been out on the dating scene for a while and think you’ve finally
met your match. How do you know?

What does love feel like?

Love feels different for everyone. Look to yourself and your
own body for some telltale signs that it just might be love! There are those
that have fallen in love many times and they just know the signs that they are
in love with someone. Others have never had that feeling and may think there’s
something wrong. Trust us. Next time you’ll know for sure.

You’ve got the look.

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Photo by Christin Hume on Unsplash

Do you remember the first time he/she caught your eye across
the room? You couldn’t look away. Weeks and months later, are you still feeling
that way? Couples that are truly in love lock eyes often. It’s a closeness they
share with no one else. Locking eyes across the room breeds security in knowing
that your loved one has their eyes on you and only you. Even at home you will
find that there are times when you stare at your partner and just watch them.
Not in a creepy way but kind of like watching a puppy sleep.

Their happiness is important to you.

Dating Perth offers many places to take your love interest
and taking stock of your loved ones likes and dislikes makes choosing the
perfect date night easier than you think. Go down the list of what they like
and choose places that offer their favorite meals and activities. If you find
yourself doing this, planning with their likes and dislikes in mind, that is a
big sign of true love. You don’t want your partner to suffer through anything
they hate.

You’re just a little numb lately.

Well, not really numb. But, your pain levels are much less
than they’ve been before. People that are in love are bothered less by pain.
People have actually studied this! I don’t think that I’d volunteer for that
study, but never the less it’s a handy fact to know. The next time you go to
the dentist keep your phone handy and look at pictures of your loved ones.

Things are up in the air.

That’s a nice way of saying you’ve got that high on life
feeling. You’re a little goofy and fun! Yay! Goofy and fun is good. You may not
make a lot of sense to other people but to the one you love, those words and
looks you share only with them let them know you are completely in sync.

The quirkier the better!

The things that seem to drive
people crazy about your partner really don’t bother you. If fact, you find some
of them endearing. For instance when they are loading a plate for dinner,
nothing can touch! It’s quirky but you don’t care, so when you serve them you
make the effort to not let anything touch. Maybe they don’t speak before
coffee. Ok, so no talking until after coffee. It’s not a bad thing; you like
reading the paper.

Dating Perth Love Signs Abound.

If you’ve been out and about dating Perth, and think you may have met “the one” see if you’re experiencing any of these signs. If so, you’re on your way and if not, don’t despair. Dating Perth is easy and fun! Let AussieCupid.com.au find “the one” for you!

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There Is A NEW Way To Meet Your Match! Clue: It’s NOT online dating

Disillusioned with online dating sites resulting in stressful dating?

Are you searching for a polite well mannered and respectful companion but simply have not found them on online dating? In the world of online dating where your first point of contact is made through a screen it is hard to make a great first impression. Here at Corporate Cupid our focus is on making the time to relax and enjoy socialising with like minded people. The event is put together by our dedicated team who choose the venue with the utmost of care and all events are expertly co-ordinated and fully hosted to ensure the highest quality experience for all. The aim is to help people build better social networks by organising events that will appeal to a wide range of people face-to-face.

No more disappointing online dating for you!

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Meeting some one in person is a much more efficient way to meet than online dating.  At singles clubs you can expect an energetic environment full of music and beverages similar people. What better way to make decisions than behind your computer screen.

Online dating apps don’t give you body language

Being forthcoming on the singles scene is often a doubt that people looking for love have, our social club is an ideal setting to meet new people as everyone is there with the same intention as you. With this in mind people don’t mind asking questions and getting to know another as they realise this is apart of the process. In the case of online matchmaking and online dating apps you do not get a sense of someone entirely because they are behind a screen, this is a great way to see emotions and body language.

When two people meet face-to-face for the first time it is a great way to feel for a ‘spark’. When meeting at the social club you will have the chance to see how your conversation flows, allow you to build trust and empathize. The lack of face-to-face places limits on the amount of connection that can be shared.

Real relationships are hard to build through
online dating apps

In-person discussions or meeting face to face can help improve efficiency as you are relying on all senses when engaging. Instead of spending your entire day sending and receiving messages. So think about the current state of your relationship. Could you benefit from making the extra effort to have a face-to-face meeting to potentially find the man or woman of your dreams?

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