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Self-Esteem and Successful Relationships

Self-Esteem and Successful Relationships

Research has well established the link between good self-esteem and relationship satisfaction. Self-esteem not only affects how we think about
ourselves, but also how much love we’re able to receive and how we treat
others, especially in intimate relationships.

“Low self-esteem can make you test or sabotage relationships that have potential, or settle for relationships in which you’re treated in a way that matches your beliefs about yourself,” says clinical psychologist Suzanne Lachmann, Psy.D.

People with high self-esteem are aware of the fact that to maintain a successful relationship; inner happiness is all that matters. And to keep up with that, one should know his self-worth, which has nothing to do with money,
education or health. Individuals who have a high level of self-recognition are acutely aware of themselves and what they want from a relationship. Before involving a long-lasting and positive relationship, he always starts by respecting himself.

He strives to know about himself and also if he is ready for the future consequences of involvement. Therefore, all the qualities mentioned above for a person with high self-esteem, make him stand out among the rest. Knowing their worth first, helps them to involve with a better understanding of a relation.

If you have low self-esteem you won’t be able to relate to others well. You may feel a lack of confidence in social situations. Your body language may be negative and you will not respond to others positively. Relationships you have had for a while can quickly go downhill if you suffer from low self worth. Even the best of friends will grow tired of someone who cannot help himself / herself. You may take on a victim mentality. This means you will blame everyone and everything for how you feel. You will not be able to relate to others well because you will act like a victim rather than an equal.

Why not complete the ‘Quizzes and More’s The Self Worth Quiz?



Once you’ve completed the scale, add together all of the numbers assigned to each response you chose, and review the appropriate feedback below.

If Your Score Ranged From:


10-25 –
Your score indicates that you have a fairly poor sense of your self
worth. And chances are that your ideas about yourself are not really
accurate – you may be focusing too much on the negative and ignoring the
many positive aspects of who you are as a person. Poor self worth is
something you should consider working on because it can interfere with your
interest in and ability to go after challenging goals. It can also make it more
difficult for you to find a healthy romantic relationship, with a partner who
values you as a person and who treats you well. Click here to learn more
about what you can do to work on developing a more positive sense of self
worth.

26-40 – Your score indicates that your sense of self worth is moderate – lower
in some areas and higher in others. Although no one feels they’re the best at
everything (and, of course, no one actually is the best at everything), it’s
possible that some of your more negative feelings about yourself could be improved
by a change of focus, or working harder to accomplish certain goals.

41-50 – Your score indicates that you have a fairly positive sense of your self
worth. That’s great, because feeling this way can improve your ability to
successfully accomplish challenging goals, and to find and maintain a healthy
romantic relationship.

Healthy Self-Worth in Relationships
When you understand the influence that lack of self-worth has on your
relationships, you can take steps to change what stands in the way of a
meaningful and balanced relationship. A healthy sense of self-worth can
transform your life.

If you are looking to find a life long partner, join our Social Club for singles!

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10 Keys to a Successful Romantic Relationship

 According to psychologists Nathaniel Branden and Robert Sternberg, who
have both researched and written about the challenges of romantic
relationships, little displays of interest and affection can be more important than all the “active listening” and trust games in the world. Their research has suggested 10 keys to a Successful Romantic Relationship, keeping both partners content, satisfied, and happy with each other.

1. Tell your partner you love them.

Although it’s true that actions speak louder than words, words often speak
more clearly than actions. Take a moment every now and then to verbalize
your feelings for your partner.
It shows commitment- The phrase I love you is a big step in any relationship so by repeating it -shows you are still embracing this milestone each and every day.
It makes your partner feel secure- If something has rocked your relationship
lately- this can let your loved one know that whatever life throws at you- you
still love them no matter what.

2. Show some affection

Small acts of physical intimacy – the hand on the small of the back as you
brush by in the hallway, your arm around their shoulder on the sofa, your
hand on their thigh when seated side-by-side, holding hands while walking
down the street. Small affectionate moments can have a big ripple affection in
your relationship. When we show affection to our partners and husbands, they
feel noticed, respected, and cherished.

3. Show appreciation to your partner

Appreciation is a key to any relationship. Appreciating someone makes them
feel good about what they do, and that it makes a difference to their lives. It
makes them feel better about themselves, urging them to go on with new
vigor, strengthening your relationship.

4. Share yourself

When people share their opinions and feelings they develop a greater
understanding of each other’s likes and dislikes. It may also help to work out
what each other are wanting from the relationship. Don’t keep your likes and
dislikes, dreams and fears, achievements and mistakes, or anything else to
yourself. If it’s important to you, share it with your partner.

5. Be there for your partner.

It’s obvious what you need to do when your partner faces a major life
challenge like the loss of a job or the death of a loved one. But it’s just as
important to be supportive when your partner faces life’s little challenges, too
– an argument at work, a rough commute, a misplaced check. Don’t let
yourself be a doormat, and definitely don’t stand for physical or verbal abuse,
but thicken your skin a little and be the voice of calm and reason when chaos strikes. Listen to what’s bothering them and offer whatever help – even if it’s just sympathy – you can.

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6. Give gifts

Gifts have always been an important part in developing healthy, loving
relationships. Apart from being just a simple gesture of appreciation towards
your partners, giving the right gifts can show just how much you care for, and
understand them. While all relationships are unique, no one can deny the
impact these things have on creating a stronger bond and deeper connection
with each other. The time one takes to get to know his or her partner’s
preferences, personalities, and unique quirks makes a well-chosen gift even
more special because of the effort that goes into choosing it.

7. Respond gracefully to your partner’s demands and shortcomings

A big killer of relationships is unreasonable expectations. Unless you married
a robot, your partner comes pre-loaded with a whole range of human failures
and foibles. These are features, not bugs! Learn to recognize and appreciate
your partner’s quirks for what they are: an essential part of who they are as
people. Since our weaknesses are often at the core of our deepest
insecurities, make sure you don’t pick on or otherwise go out of your way to
highlight your partner’s flaws.

8. Make “alone time” a priority

No matter how busy both of your lives are, make sure you commit at least an
evening every week or two to be alone together. “When we spend quality and
designated time on ourselves, we nurture our own social and emotional well- being, which makes us more likely to carry that out towards other relationships,” says therapist  Julia Colangelo , LCSW. “It is vital that to enable our relationship to grow, we must also grow and develop as a person.”

9. Take nothing for granted

Cultivate a daily sense of gratitude for your partner and the thousands of little
blessings he or she has brought into your life. Not taking each other for
granted is all about giving time for each other. It is all about showing concern
for your partner. It is all about asking how his or her day was. It is all about
giving your partner a hug before he or she leaves for work. It is all about the
small things that you do for your partner that makes him or her feel loved.

10. Strive for equality

Make sure you follow the Golden Rule in your relationship: do unto your
partner as you would have done unto you. Strive for a fair division of
household duties and other tasks, and don’t expect or demand special
considerations you’d be unwilling to offer.

If you are a single looking to find love, Corporate Cupid offers a Social Club for our members. With locally organised networking events, Corporate Cupid provides a safe and relaxed environment for those seeking to find the special someone.

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There Is A NEW Way To Meet Your Match! Clue: It’s NOT online dating

Disillusioned with online dating sites resulting in stressful dating?

Are you searching for a polite well mannered and respectful companion but simply have not found them on online dating? In the world of online dating where your first point of contact is made through a screen it is hard to make a great first impression. Here at Corporate Cupid our focus is on making the time to relax and enjoy socialising with like minded people. The event is put together by our dedicated team who choose the venue with the utmost of care and all events are expertly co-ordinated and fully hosted to ensure the highest quality experience for all. The aim is to help people build better social networks by organising events that will appeal to a wide range of people face-to-face.

No more disappointing online dating for you!

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Meeting some one in person is a much more efficient way to meet than online dating.  At singles clubs you can expect an energetic environment full of music and beverages similar people. What better way to make decisions than behind your computer screen.

Online dating apps don’t give you body language

Being forthcoming on the singles scene is often a doubt that people looking for love have, our social club is an ideal setting to meet new people as everyone is there with the same intention as you. With this in mind people don’t mind asking questions and getting to know another as they realise this is apart of the process. In the case of online matchmaking and online dating apps you do not get a sense of someone entirely because they are behind a screen, this is a great way to see emotions and body language.

When two people meet face-to-face for the first time it is a great way to feel for a ‘spark’. When meeting at the social club you will have the chance to see how your conversation flows, allow you to build trust and empathize. The lack of face-to-face places limits on the amount of connection that can be shared.

Real relationships are hard to build through
online dating apps

In-person discussions or meeting face to face can help improve efficiency as you are relying on all senses when engaging. Instead of spending your entire day sending and receiving messages. So think about the current state of your relationship. Could you benefit from making the extra effort to have a face-to-face meeting to potentially find the man or woman of your dreams?

Join our Social Club and have the chance to meet the person of your dreams!