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5 Pieces of Bad Dating Advice Exposed

Has bad dating advice left you feeling vulnerable?

There is no shortage of dating advice out there from friends and family but what you need is a Singles Social Club – I’m talking a real life experience. Until you have the chance to enjoy a wonderful event with like-minded people.

The problem though is much of the advice you’ve recieved has been mistaken and based on personal experiences and opinions, rather than actual research about relationships. Below, I take on five common pieces of dating advice that are misguided or flat-out wrong.

This why you need a Social Club! Research shows that a lot of popular dating wisdom is wrong.

When You Meet The Right Person, You’ll Know Right Away.
One comforting piece of advice is that when the right person comes along, you’ll just magically know.
Maybe you’ll even experience love at first sight. Unfortunately for those romantics out there, the evidence suggests that there’s no magic. In a series of studies, Paul Eastwick and colleagues tracked people’s memories of various relationship experiences across the entire course of their relationships, both short-term and long-term. They found that early in a relationship, the timing of various relationship milestones (e.g., first kiss, first sexual encounter) and the strength of people’s feelings toward their partner was the same for both short and long-term relationships.
It was only later on that the researchers saw differences between relationships that lasted and relationships that eventually fizzled.

If You’re Interested In Someone, Play Hard To Get.
Many relationship advice books tell women that they should play hard to get if they hope to attract a man. According to this strategy, men like what they can’t have, so a woman should act uninterested in the man she desires.
Girls think that playing hard to get will make a guy like them, and being too available will turn him off. This isn’t true. Waiting a certain amount of time before texting him back and pretending to be busy when you’re not doesn’t get a guy to like you, it gets a guy to chase you. The problem with the chase is that it creates the illusion of having chemistry.

Focus On Putting Your Best Foot Forward Until You’re Firmly Committed.
Some dating advice suggests that the courtship experience should be approached as a game with the end goal of snagging a partner: Carefully monitor your behavior and the impression that you create in order to win the prize of a committed relationship. It’s true that first impressions matter and that you should generally be on good behavior on your early dates. Opening up too soon is generally viewed as socially inappropriate and is likely to turn someone off. But sometimes this advice goes too far.


Opposites attract, so try to find someone really different than you.
People often claim that opposites attract. Studies have found that people are
more likely to be attracted to and pursue romantic relationships with
individuals who are more like themselves across a broad range of personal
characteristics, including age,  religion , political orientation, and certain
aspects of  intelligence . Consider the 2014 research paper in which an international  team  of economists found that better-educated people tend to
marry other better-educated people—while individuals with less formal
schooling tend to partner with people of comparable educational levels.
Generally speaking, it appears, birds of a feather romantically flock together.


You’ll Only Meet Liars And Weirdoes If You Date Online.

Many people believe that everybody lies online. Online daters do sometimes
lie about their age and physical appearance. However, research shows that
extreme lies are rare because people who are looking to develop relationships
with those they meet online realize that such lies will eventually be revealed,
and when they are, it would likely spell the end of the relationship. There is
also a stereotype that people who use online dating are desperate because
they are unable to get a date “in real life.” Contrary to this picture, research
shows that there are almost no personality differences between people who
date online and those who don’t. In fact, one study found that people who met
their spouses online were more likely to be of higher socioeconomic status
than those who met offline. When you’re on the dating market, be yourself,
don’t chase after your polar opposite, don’t expect to instantly know if you’ve
found “the one,” and don’t be afraid to try online dating.

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10 Keys to a Successful Romantic Relationship

 According to psychologists Nathaniel Branden and Robert Sternberg, who
have both researched and written about the challenges of romantic
relationships, little displays of interest and affection can be more important than all the “active listening” and trust games in the world. Their research has suggested 10 keys to a Successful Romantic Relationship, keeping both partners content, satisfied, and happy with each other.

1. Tell your partner you love them.

Although it’s true that actions speak louder than words, words often speak
more clearly than actions. Take a moment every now and then to verbalize
your feelings for your partner.
It shows commitment- The phrase I love you is a big step in any relationship so by repeating it -shows you are still embracing this milestone each and every day.
It makes your partner feel secure- If something has rocked your relationship
lately- this can let your loved one know that whatever life throws at you- you
still love them no matter what.

2. Show some affection

Small acts of physical intimacy – the hand on the small of the back as you
brush by in the hallway, your arm around their shoulder on the sofa, your
hand on their thigh when seated side-by-side, holding hands while walking
down the street. Small affectionate moments can have a big ripple affection in
your relationship. When we show affection to our partners and husbands, they
feel noticed, respected, and cherished.

3. Show appreciation to your partner

Appreciation is a key to any relationship. Appreciating someone makes them
feel good about what they do, and that it makes a difference to their lives. It
makes them feel better about themselves, urging them to go on with new
vigor, strengthening your relationship.

4. Share yourself

When people share their opinions and feelings they develop a greater
understanding of each other’s likes and dislikes. It may also help to work out
what each other are wanting from the relationship. Don’t keep your likes and
dislikes, dreams and fears, achievements and mistakes, or anything else to
yourself. If it’s important to you, share it with your partner.

5. Be there for your partner.

It’s obvious what you need to do when your partner faces a major life
challenge like the loss of a job or the death of a loved one. But it’s just as
important to be supportive when your partner faces life’s little challenges, too
– an argument at work, a rough commute, a misplaced check. Don’t let
yourself be a doormat, and definitely don’t stand for physical or verbal abuse,
but thicken your skin a little and be the voice of calm and reason when chaos strikes. Listen to what’s bothering them and offer whatever help – even if it’s just sympathy – you can.

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6. Give gifts

Gifts have always been an important part in developing healthy, loving
relationships. Apart from being just a simple gesture of appreciation towards
your partners, giving the right gifts can show just how much you care for, and
understand them. While all relationships are unique, no one can deny the
impact these things have on creating a stronger bond and deeper connection
with each other. The time one takes to get to know his or her partner’s
preferences, personalities, and unique quirks makes a well-chosen gift even
more special because of the effort that goes into choosing it.

7. Respond gracefully to your partner’s demands and shortcomings

A big killer of relationships is unreasonable expectations. Unless you married
a robot, your partner comes pre-loaded with a whole range of human failures
and foibles. These are features, not bugs! Learn to recognize and appreciate
your partner’s quirks for what they are: an essential part of who they are as
people. Since our weaknesses are often at the core of our deepest
insecurities, make sure you don’t pick on or otherwise go out of your way to
highlight your partner’s flaws.

8. Make “alone time” a priority

No matter how busy both of your lives are, make sure you commit at least an
evening every week or two to be alone together. “When we spend quality and
designated time on ourselves, we nurture our own social and emotional well- being, which makes us more likely to carry that out towards other relationships,” says therapist  Julia Colangelo , LCSW. “It is vital that to enable our relationship to grow, we must also grow and develop as a person.”

9. Take nothing for granted

Cultivate a daily sense of gratitude for your partner and the thousands of little
blessings he or she has brought into your life. Not taking each other for
granted is all about giving time for each other. It is all about showing concern
for your partner. It is all about asking how his or her day was. It is all about
giving your partner a hug before he or she leaves for work. It is all about the
small things that you do for your partner that makes him or her feel loved.

10. Strive for equality

Make sure you follow the Golden Rule in your relationship: do unto your
partner as you would have done unto you. Strive for a fair division of
household duties and other tasks, and don’t expect or demand special
considerations you’d be unwilling to offer.

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