Do You Believe In Love At First Site

Do you believe in love at first sight? Renee Brown responds to interviewer Chris Ilsley.

Drawing parallels to the TV show Married at First Sight, 6pr radio host Chris’s guest was Renee Brown,  Matchmaker. Discussing the love versus lust dilemma, Renee Brown makes it clear that lust is in fact one component of what drives us to believe in love at first sight. Can couples that claim love at first sight make it work? Does love occur instantaneously or do couples fall slowly, comfortably in love and live happily ever after?

Rene Brown’s belief that primal urges drive us to choose people we want to date based on the fitness as a mate or their ability to breed and perpetuate the race.

So these feelings of lust that come upon us and drive us to chase the one we want are caused by chemical reactions within the brain. Brown says we need to call upon the brain at this stage to analyze the situation and make sure the person is right for us. So pay attention to the signals that the brain is sending you. Don’t ignore them. Basing your choices on looks only is a mistake.

Is the love at first sight crowd older?

Caller after caller professed their undying love for mates that they met and married after their first date. Some even proposed on the first date! Most had been married half a century or more. So what did Renee Brown attribute this to? She says well these are older people and they have values. Meaning they know how to stick it out when times are tough. Dating at the time these people were seeking a mate was not the marathon sport that it is now.

Have dating practices evolved?

Current dating practices have evolved into a much faster paced almost sport like event. We have speed dating, tinder and many other ways that didn’t even exist back then. Renee Brown says even in the current dating environment we need to use our brains to listen to what is going on and still use our values to help us make the proper choice. Again, we are just doing this at a higher speed now than ever before.

What about making a return appearance?

In the event that people are returning to the dating world for the first time in 20+ years, the differences now are so great that they are often shocked and don’t know where to begin. Chris lsley felt this was an excuse to stay married and Renee Brown chimed in that yes, they should work on their marriage.

Finally, how do we avoid the wrong person?

In one last question Chris asks Renee Brown how to avoid hook-ups with the wrong people? Again she let us know in no uncertain terms, use your brain! Take note of the red flags and pay attention. Don’t let lust drive your decision. Make sure to engage the brain and pay attention! Renee Brown is a current day matchmaker and appeared on the Chris Ilsley radio show to discuss the topic of Love at First Sight. Let Corporate Cupid help you avoid the wrong person and make the right match. We offer guidance, social events and fun.

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What to do on Valentines Day.. Both for Singles & Relationships

Valentine’s Day is here, and while many of us dream of chocolates, roses, and romantic getaways, if we’re not careful, the only thing we might get is a dose of disappointment and heartache.

Whether we are single or in a relationship, Valentine’s Day can be stressful. 40% of people surveyed say they have negative feelings towards the holiday, so if you do too, you are far from alone! Below is a Valentine’s Day Survival Guide to help you navigate the day so you are able to move beyond any negative feelings and enjoy it.

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  • Don’t forget 

I think that the worst thing a person could do on Valentine’s Day is forgetting all about it. Put it on your calendar in big red letters. And a few days before, make sure you put a reminder in your day planner or your smartphone. Planning ahead to implement some of the do’s on this list will involve some advance thought and effort.

  • Put things in perspective

Ask yourself what this holiday really means to you.  Just remember that since we were young, advertisers have shaped our concept of Valentine’s Day.  We have been inundated with images of cupids, fancy dinners, sunsets, and diamonds, and all this visual conditioning has created an expectation of what should be.  That formula has worked for marketers.  The industry generates more than 14 billion dollars in retail sales each year.  With that in mind, do some digging on what this day really means to you.  Discover what you truly value and come up with your own definition of the significance of Valentine’s Day. 

  • Don’t do the same thing you did last year

Even if it worked well, your partner will appreciate something new and different. She wants to know that you thought about her as you planned your Valentine’s Day gift or event.

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What to do on Valentine’s Day….If you are single

So if you’re single, why not celebrate you and that amazing ability you have to love. Love, in all its forms, is worth celebrating. Here are some ways to celebrate yourself this Valentine’s Day.

  • Focus on all the positive things in your life

Look around at all you have in your life. Look at your friends, your family, your career, your support network. You have lots to be really grateful for and lots of things to focus on that are positive and leading you in the right direction. If it helps, start a gratitude journal to help keep perspective.

  • Make yourself a fancy dinner

With the ridiculous prices at restaurants on Valentine’s Day, taking yourself out to a fancy dinner may not be worth it. Instead, try making a recipe you’ve always wanted to try — or order your favorite takeout meal — and breakout the champagne.

  • Organise a night out with other single friends. 

Find a positive group of friends and plan a fun night out together.  Do things you might not be doing if you were in a relationship: chose the place you want to go to, flirt with strangers, and stay out late.

What to do on Valentine’s Day….If you are in a relationship or married

One of the nicest parts of being in a relationship is having routines that you share together and love: Saturday mornings spent leisurely snuggled up together; going to your favourite neighbourhood sushi restaurant; or watching your favorite TV shows together. But becoming too comfortable in your routines can put your relationship at risk of falling into complacency and even boredom, which isn’t so great for your relationship. 

  • Do something new and adventurous together

Research has found that couples who experience new and exiting activities together have an increase in the quality of their relationship (Aron et al, 2000). Trying new things together brings back the feelings of excitement and the thrill that you felt when you first fell in love.

  • Use the day to strengthen your relationship 

Valentine’s Day is a great opportunity to take stock of the past year, and reconnect with your partner. Take some time to reflect on what makes your partner special, and write these things down in the card you’re going to give them.  I have always believed the message in the card is the most important part of any gift.

  • Incorporate Appreciation and Gratitude

One hallmark of committed, solid couples is an ability to show gratitude to one another (Gordon et al., 2012). When your partner feels appreciated, he or she will in turn be more likely to appreciate you and all you do for them. On Valentine’s Day, incorporate gratitude with a gift that shows your high level of appreciation. Say it in your card, in your gift (love vouchers are a classic), or write down how you feel in a poem or love letter.

  • Add an Element of Mystery or Surprise To Your Celebration

Research indicates that when people receive a gift that is unexpected or has an element of mystery surrounding it, they tend to feel more positively about the experience, and the happy feelings last longer, when compared to something they expect (Wilson et al., 2005). So for Valentines Day, add an element of the unexpected to your gift. 

  • Give a personalised gift from the heart 

More than anything, your partner wants to feel loved and appreciated.  If the two of you are exchanging presents, give a thoughtful gift that shows you have really been paying attention to your partner’s needs and wishes.  Often better than giving a material item is to plan a shared experience, such as a night out to the theater or a dinner at a special restaurant. The experience builds positive memories, which both of you will always share.

What matters on February 14, and indeed every day of your relationship, is that you feel loved, respected, cherished and cared about by someone whom you love, respect, cherish and care about. So talk it over with your beloved. Make something happen – together – that is as personal and loving as your relationship.

We hope you have a wonderful Valentine’s Day!

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5 Affordable Valentine’s Day Presents (that won’t cost you a thing)

Don’t feel bad that you haven’t ordered a dozen red roses a week before the big day. We are here to tell you about 5 affordable presents that won’t really cost you a thing!

If you are single and have a crush, it is the perfect excuse to inform them, or let the one you love know how much you love them. However you look at it, Valentine’s Day is a great reason to celebrate love.. or the start of it.

Whether you’re erratic for the day or a cynic, we’re sure you’ve got some love to give. You can decide to keep it local and enjoy a simple picnic, or maybe a fancy degustation dinner, regardless it is a great time receive a thoughtful gesture and inject some extra romance into your relationship.

Here are our top 5 affordable ways to say, “I like you” this Valentine’s day without breaking the bank!

1. Card: We all love receiving something thoughtful, and with a card you have to put your feeling to paper so it can be a great way to send a heart-warming romantic message, or go one level up with a poem! (Heart melts)
This avoids having to splash out the big bucks but its personalized.

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2. Food & Wine: Yes, Food! Food is the way to anyones heart. You can plan something cute with a styled picnic filled with a delicious platter and wine. Valentine’s restaurant rush, other couples, waiters and noisy distractions? Ordering a takeaway and creating an alternative setting is key (Add in extra romantic flare with a few scented candles)

3. Breakfast in bed: Food again, yes! This little jester might just be the perfect present! Start their day off with pancakes in bed, it’s incredibly romantic to have someone prepare this for you! A scrumptious breakfast in bed costs nothing and will melt the heart of your loved one. Want to jazz it up a little? Try adding a cute little rose to the breakfast tray.

4. Scavenger hunt: This is something you see in movies, all you need is a sticky pad and pen. Leave notes all around the house for your loved one to see reminding them of all of the wonderful things that you love about them.

5. It’s massage time: Start by stocking up on basic spa essentials, maybe some moisturizer or oils. Break out your old robes and take turns pampering each other with the kind of personal attention spas just can’t offer. Your spouse will appreciate the thought and the attention.

We hope you have a wonderful Valentines Day, whatever you do!

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Summer Date Ideas Perth

So, you’ve secured the date, now it’s time to close the deal with a great date!

There are so many wonderful things to do in Perth. Now that Corporate Cupid has fit you with a fantastic match, it’s time to explore the reasons you were matched. Find fun things to do that are not far from home and make it a no pressure date. Afternoon dates are lovely for the getting to know you phase and any of these will work wonders to promote conversation and thoughtful time spent learning each other’s likes and dislikes.

Perth is an exciting
city with many date options. Now that you’ve met the potential one at one of
our social singles club events, it’s time to get out on the town. Don’t put too
much pressure on the date. Just enjoy getting to know each other and exploring
fun places close to home. Here are our top ten ideas for a “getting to know you”
date in Perth!

Do you enjoy outdoor fun summer date ideas Perth?

  1. The King’s Park and Botanic Garden is a lovely getaway close to home.  There are a variety of events for young and old, so if your date has children, they will appreciate that you have offered an option acceptable to bring children should they desire to do so. It’s not likely on a first date, but displaying that kind of thoughtfulness is a nice touch. Check the calendar of events for upcoming summer fun date ideas Perth.
  2. An afternoon exploring Swan Valley is a nice easy walk with interesting items to explore along the way. Perhaps you and “the one” are history buffs that appreciate old architecture and churches. Two of Australia’s oldest churches are here and both lovely to see. St Mary’s Church is located in Middle Swan and All Saint’s Church in Henley Brook boasts the original church buildings and grave yard. Explore the history and enjoy the region, following with lunch in town.

For the more adventurous date, visit one of these spots!

  1. Freemantle Prison offers a variety of fun things to do! If your date is on the adventurous side, plan a fun trip to Freemantle Prison. Check the calendar for what is going on. Freemantle offers a fun Torchlight Tour. Be sure to check with your date and find out just how adventurous they are before booking this tour.
  2. The Bell Tower along The Swan River is a nice place for a stroll after a meal. The views are excellent and you can even place a love lock! A really good getting to know you, fun thing to do, plenty of time to stroll, enjoy the scenery and talk!

Do you fancy a casual meal and good
conversation?

Sometimes you just want to enjoy a meal, sit and talk a bit. These are a few of our favorite places to enjoy doing just that! Here’s a few of our favourite places for summer date ideas Perth.

  1. For an excellent Chinese meal and a BYO casual,
    quiet atmosphere, bring your appetite and your date to Old
    Lane Street Eats
    in Northbridge. Frequent diners recommend the Roti John
    and the Pad Thai.
  2. Little
    Creatures
    in Fremantle is a casual, yet romantic spot on the water. Being
    at the port is festive and fun. So for a great time, good food and an all
    around fun date night or afternoon, try Little Creatures. It won’t disappoint!
  3. For a more upscale meal, try C Restaurant and dine in the sky! You’ll
    enjoy the food as well as the view and the ambiance is both quiet and romantic.
    Save this one for a 2nd 3rd date. It will lead to more!

Are you looking for a quick meeting spot?

Sometimes you just need to meet for a few minutes and speak
about meeting at the singles club or one of the singles events in Perth. Maybe
you didn’t have enough time to speak, so more time to talk is in order before
an actual date.

  1. For a totally no pressure, first meeting date,
    try Gusto Gelato, Elizabeth Quay
    There are a few locations to choose from and what a fun idea for a hot
    afternoon! Enjoy your ice cream or go for a stroll, cones in hand as you spend
    time chatting and getting to know each other.
  2. At Swallow
    Bar
    , Maylands you can pop in for a drink and convert to a fully fledged
    date if things work out! This is a lovely neighbourhood bar to meet for a quick
    drink and if you really like the way things are going, stay for a meal. The
    food is excellent.
  3. The Metro Bar and Bistro, is a popular city venue, near the convention centre. It
    has an urban modern flare. It’s a great place to meet and talk because its open
    early until late and has an extensive cocktail menu and good food.

It’s time to seal the deal.

Now that you’ve made the date, pick a great spot to enjoy. Make it a no pressure afternoon or evening date so that no one is nervous. Stay local and enjoy all that Perth has to offer. Our social singles clubs are a great place to start. Corporate Cupid is your social singles club, Perth. Enjoy our summer date ideas Perth!

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5 Pieces of Bad Dating Advice Exposed

Has bad dating advice left you feeling vulnerable?

There is no shortage of dating advice out there from friends and family but what you need is a Singles Social Club – I’m talking a real life experience. Until you have the chance to enjoy a wonderful event with like-minded people.

The problem though is much of the advice you’ve recieved has been mistaken and based on personal experiences and opinions, rather than actual research about relationships. Below, I take on five common pieces of dating advice that are misguided or flat-out wrong.

This why you need a Social Club! Research shows that a lot of popular dating wisdom is wrong.

When You Meet The Right Person, You’ll Know Right Away.
One comforting piece of advice is that when the right person comes along, you’ll just magically know.
Maybe you’ll even experience love at first sight. Unfortunately for those romantics out there, the evidence suggests that there’s no magic. In a series of studies, Paul Eastwick and colleagues tracked people’s memories of various relationship experiences across the entire course of their relationships, both short-term and long-term. They found that early in a relationship, the timing of various relationship milestones (e.g., first kiss, first sexual encounter) and the strength of people’s feelings toward their partner was the same for both short and long-term relationships.
It was only later on that the researchers saw differences between relationships that lasted and relationships that eventually fizzled.

If You’re Interested In Someone, Play Hard To Get.
Many relationship advice books tell women that they should play hard to get if they hope to attract a man. According to this strategy, men like what they can’t have, so a woman should act uninterested in the man she desires.
Girls think that playing hard to get will make a guy like them, and being too available will turn him off. This isn’t true. Waiting a certain amount of time before texting him back and pretending to be busy when you’re not doesn’t get a guy to like you, it gets a guy to chase you. The problem with the chase is that it creates the illusion of having chemistry.

Focus On Putting Your Best Foot Forward Until You’re Firmly Committed.
Some dating advice suggests that the courtship experience should be approached as a game with the end goal of snagging a partner: Carefully monitor your behavior and the impression that you create in order to win the prize of a committed relationship. It’s true that first impressions matter and that you should generally be on good behavior on your early dates. Opening up too soon is generally viewed as socially inappropriate and is likely to turn someone off. But sometimes this advice goes too far.


Opposites attract, so try to find someone really different than you.
People often claim that opposites attract. Studies have found that people are
more likely to be attracted to and pursue romantic relationships with
individuals who are more like themselves across a broad range of personal
characteristics, including age,  religion , political orientation, and certain
aspects of  intelligence . Consider the 2014 research paper in which an international  team  of economists found that better-educated people tend to
marry other better-educated people—while individuals with less formal
schooling tend to partner with people of comparable educational levels.
Generally speaking, it appears, birds of a feather romantically flock together.


You’ll Only Meet Liars And Weirdoes If You Date Online.

Many people believe that everybody lies online. Online daters do sometimes
lie about their age and physical appearance. However, research shows that
extreme lies are rare because people who are looking to develop relationships
with those they meet online realize that such lies will eventually be revealed,
and when they are, it would likely spell the end of the relationship. There is
also a stereotype that people who use online dating are desperate because
they are unable to get a date “in real life.” Contrary to this picture, research
shows that there are almost no personality differences between people who
date online and those who don’t. In fact, one study found that people who met
their spouses online were more likely to be of higher socioeconomic status
than those who met offline. When you’re on the dating market, be yourself,
don’t chase after your polar opposite, don’t expect to instantly know if you’ve
found “the one,” and don’t be afraid to try online dating.

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Renee Brown: Wedding Boom with Channel 7 News

Recently, I had the pleasure of contributing to a Channel 7 interview on the increasing number of weddings occurring across the country.

The segment started with the heart-warming story of two people finding love and marrying at the ages of 85 and 80!

It’s never too late to follow your heart and walk down the aisle.

The Channel 7 story embodied the trend emerging in Australia of couples waiting until they are older before committing to marriage. The average age for marriage is now 30 for females and 32 for men.

These age statistics are emblematic of the type of people we work with here at Corporate Cupid. We have found our clients tend to be over the age of 30 and therefore generally have the following attributes:

1. Financial Security: Once you have reached the age of 30, you are likely to have finished your studies and settled into your chosen profession. With this comes a certain level of financial security and a wish to be partnered up with people in similar financial circumstances.

2. Relationship Awareness: Understanding what you do and do not want from a relationship. This is often formed through past relationship experience and a genuine knowledge of your own qualities.

3. Belief System: Knowing your values, beliefs, and how they feed into your interests and desires, is something that accumulates over a lifetime. We have found that our clients (and people over the age of 30 generally) are more likely to have an understanding of who they are on a deeper level, which allows for a better opportunity to find that perfect match.

At Corporate Cupid, we understand that finding a person who is at the same stage of life as you can be a frustrating process. We want to take the hassle out of finding your special person, while ensuring that you are matched with someone who is best suited to your true needs.

If you are wanting to know more about what we offer and how our match making works, drop me a line.

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Becoming the Ideal Partner!

Relationships in the real world are nothing like the ones we see at the movies or read about in romance novels or once upon a time fairytales – and for good reason.

The most charming person in the room isn’t always the ideal guy for you, and the plain housemaid who just sits around all day looking out the window and sweeping chimney dust is not likely to stumble upon her ideal match on some uneventful stroll to the market one morning.

It’s normal for people to look for something exciting and attractive in another man or woman, after all its about aiming high being with someone who inspires you.

People who have a healthy level of self-esteem and confidence want to find a wonderful partner who has good social value, emotional and financial security, and physical attributes that trigger an attraction. Someone they can build an exciting future with.

Of course, there’s more to be mentioned but different people have different items on their checklist so we’ll leave the other ones to your imagination.

On Becoming “Ideal”

Our own desire to find a “valuable” relationship partner means we shouldn’t be surprised when other people have high expectations of how they choose theirs.

In short, “To find the ideal lover, we must also become one.” That’s how the real world works. It doesn’t pay to always feel like we’re entitled to an ideal relationship when we fail to work on becoming the ideal partner.

I always advise my clients to look and feel their best so that they can attract the best.

If you’ve been a victim of an unfortunate love affair, chances are you’ve built nice tall walls around your heart.

It’s no surprise given the paradox of choice that many people have experienced at least some form of relationship pain, maybe being cheated on, manipulated, hurt, and emotionally let down by their nearest and dearest.

The experience can leave you feeling debilitated and seemingly start to believe you are worthless as a person (which just isn’t true). If this is your story, and I know I’ve been there too.

Think Positive

It’s time to change your story, think about the positive learning from your situation. I know sometimes you might have to dig deep and look at, but eventually you will find it.

Maybe the experience has helped you discover what you really want, maybe you’re a stronger person, maybe just maybe it’s an opportunity to find real love with someone who is your equal.

I don’t know about you but when you focus on the positive it naturally makes you feel better, lighter and this helps you give off a positive vibe. We know that positivity is sexy! Positivity is irresistible and opens up so many amazing doors.

Try it now, get a piece of paper and write down the positive outcome of your past relationships that didn’t work. Once you have finished that task write down all the great qualities you have to offer and finally write down at least five key points you would love in your new relationship.

Practice reminding yourself of everything written on your list. This will help you be the absolute best version of you and becoming that ideal you.

Exercise

Once you have your mindset right, as Olivia Newton John would say. “Let’s get physical”… A healthy body means a healthy mind. Turbo charge your endorphins with an exercise regime, where its out in the great outdoors, the gym or joining a running club, commit to being your absolute physical ideal.

Can you see the win-win? Not only will you feel amazing, look amazing, you are also opening up doors to meet new people! Exciting isn’t it?

Your future partner will appreciate your positivity your new ideal self. Being fixated on the past is likely to lead to sabotage and preventing any future connection. Which will leave you back at square one. It makes perfect sense to let the past be the past and focus your energy on the future doesn’t it?

Empathy

Perhaps the most important thing about becoming the ideal man or woman would be empathy and the ability to understand the emotions of one another. Being in a present state allows you to do this.

When both partners are empathic and capable of conversing with respect and feeling for the wants, attitudes, and values of the other, you both feel validated. The same level of intuition and emotional responsiveness is also needed to meet the physical and sexual needs of your partner. When you understand what the other person’s needs and drivers are in life you and handle the situation openly and responsively, you are more likely to achieve a feeling of fulfilment and satisfaction from the relationship.

Relationships are all about giving, the more you give the more you receive. That’s the dynamic of a healthy one. When you make a person feel good around you they naturally want to spend more and more time with you. Charming people make others feel good about themselves, the easiest way to do this is to take the focus off you and focus purely on connecting with the other person.

Everyone deserves a successful relationship, and just like you have achieved career success by investing time and energy into it, your relationship will benefit from some TLC.

Most of the work you need to do will be on yourself and good news is that it will have a flow on effect into all areas of your life. You’ll start to feel more confidence, positive, hopeful, your relationships will improve with everyone especially yourself. You’ll see!

By Samantha Jayne – Relationship Expert