According to psychologists Nathaniel Branden and Robert Sternberg, who
have both researched and written about the challenges of romantic
relationships, little displays of interest and affection can be more important than all the “active listening” and trust games in the world. Their research has suggested 10 keys to a Successful Romantic Relationship, keeping both partners content, satisfied, and happy with each other.
1. Tell your partner you love them.
Although it’s true that actions speak louder than words, words often speak
more clearly than actions. Take a moment every now and then to verbalize
your feelings for your partner.
It shows commitment- The phrase I love you is a big step in any relationship so by repeating it -shows you are still embracing this milestone each and every day.
It makes your partner feel secure- If something has rocked your relationship
lately- this can let your loved one know that whatever life throws at you- you
still love them no matter what.
2. Show some affection
Small acts of physical intimacy – the hand on the small of the back as you
brush by in the hallway, your arm around their shoulder on the sofa, your
hand on their thigh when seated side-by-side, holding hands while walking
down the street. Small affectionate moments can have a big ripple affection in
your relationship. When we show affection to our partners and husbands, they
feel noticed, respected, and cherished.
3. Show appreciation to your partner
Appreciation is a key to any relationship. Appreciating someone makes them
feel good about what they do, and that it makes a difference to their lives. It
makes them feel better about themselves, urging them to go on with new
vigor, strengthening your relationship.
4. Share yourself
When people share their opinions and feelings they develop a greater
understanding of each other’s likes and dislikes. It may also help to work out
what each other are wanting from the relationship. Don’t keep your likes and
dislikes, dreams and fears, achievements and mistakes, or anything else to
yourself. If it’s important to you, share it with your partner.
5. Be there for your partner.
It’s obvious what you need to do when your partner faces a major life
challenge like the loss of a job or the death of a loved one. But it’s just as
important to be supportive when your partner faces life’s little challenges, too
– an argument at work, a rough commute, a misplaced check. Don’t let
yourself be a doormat, and definitely don’t stand for physical or verbal abuse,
but thicken your skin a little and be the voice of calm and reason when chaos strikes. Listen to what’s bothering them and offer whatever help – even if it’s just sympathy – you can.
6. Give gifts
Gifts have always been an important part in developing healthy, loving
relationships. Apart from being just a simple gesture of appreciation towards
your partners, giving the right gifts can show just how much you care for, and
understand them. While all relationships are unique, no one can deny the
impact these things have on creating a stronger bond and deeper connection
with each other. The time one takes to get to know his or her partner’s
preferences, personalities, and unique quirks makes a well-chosen gift even
more special because of the effort that goes into choosing it.
7. Respond gracefully to your partner’s demands and shortcomings
A big killer of relationships is unreasonable expectations. Unless you married
a robot, your partner comes pre-loaded with a whole range of human failures
and foibles. These are features, not bugs! Learn to recognize and appreciate
your partner’s quirks for what they are: an essential part of who they are as
people. Since our weaknesses are often at the core of our deepest
insecurities, make sure you don’t pick on or otherwise go out of your way to
highlight your partner’s flaws.
8. Make “alone time” a priority
No matter how busy both of your lives are, make sure you commit at least an
evening every week or two to be alone together. “When we spend quality and
designated time on ourselves, we nurture our own social and emotional well- being, which makes us more likely to carry that out towards other relationships,” says therapist Julia Colangelo , LCSW. “It is vital that to enable our relationship to grow, we must also grow and develop as a person.”
9. Take nothing for granted
Cultivate a daily sense of gratitude for your partner and the thousands of little
blessings he or she has brought into your life. Not taking each other for
granted is all about giving time for each other. It is all about showing concern
for your partner. It is all about asking how his or her day was. It is all about
giving your partner a hug before he or she leaves for work. It is all about the
small things that you do for your partner that makes him or her feel loved.
10. Strive for equality
Make sure you follow the Golden Rule in your relationship: do unto your
partner as you would have done unto you. Strive for a fair division of
household duties and other tasks, and don’t expect or demand special
considerations you’d be unwilling to offer.
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